Yesterday, I went out with my friend to a restaurant. He thought I picked this certain location because it was close to his home. In reality, I chose it because Theology of Tap was being held there. “What is Theology on Tap?” my friend asked. Theology on Tap is a social gathering of Catholics/Christians at a bar or restaurant. The speaker was Colin Nykaa, Director of Young Adult Outreach for the Archdiocese of NY whose talk was on “Desire, Purpose, and Destiny: Embracing the Ache in Our Hearts.” I was very impressed and learned so much from Colin.
I never read Theology of the Body or Love and Responsibility by JPII. I tend to think about love and relationships in a very narrow lens and not the big picture that God has in mind. Everyone has this ache or longing in their hearts for something good, beautiful and eternal. Marriage shows that glimpse of love/happiness that a man and woman has for each other. However, your spouse cannot fill full that ache in your heart.
God Wants to Marry Me. What!? Yes, He loves us and wants to have that intimate relationship just like a bride and bride’s groom has. Marriage is suppose to show us that glimpse of heaven that God wants to shower us with His eternal love and commitment. Jesus said in one of His many parables:
“The kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who gave a wedding banquet for his son.”
Let us then take a look at engagement. One of my cousin received a proposal from her boyfriend on New Year’s Day. The boyfriend initiated the engagement by proposing her hand in marriage. She received his love by saying “yes.” Eventually, they will conceive children and become co-creators with God. This happens in every vocation such as married to the single life as well as priests and nuns. Our primary relationship with God works the same way as when we receive the Eucharist. Remember, God initiates, We receive and then we bear fruit.