Posted in Catholic Being

Totally Yours

There is this app on the phone, that I truly recommend if you want to devote and consecrate your life to Mother Mary. It is free to download to your iphone and the app is called Totally Yours (based on the quote from St. Louis de Montfort).

Once you start, each day will have a “Reflection” reading, prayers to say, journal and learning based on your reading. I have been doing it every morning, kneeling would be preferable.  I believe this has been my anchor, my motto and my goal to totally give everything to Mother Mary.

I hope you can join me by downloading this beautiful app and give your life to Mother Mary.



Posted in Mirror of Reflections

Trip to Texas

So I came back from Dallas, Texas a while back.  I have a friend who lived there, and she heard my cry of despair when I broke off a relationship with a guy. I must say I’m so glad that I left NYC and lived with my close friend in Texas.

I think that vacations, no matter where you go, rejuvenates life especially when it gets tough.  Coming back, I feel more secure and more assured.  She took me to a church called Mater Dei, which is know for its Latin Mass.  I never had a three day weekend where I attend mass in Latin before, but I noticed that there were large families that filled the pews.  Women and girls dressed in dresses with their veils; Men and boys attended the mass with their families. The families were large with many children. I couldn’t believe it, and its very sad for me to say that I don’t really see large or united families back home.

I started to have many questions. I come from a divorced family, where my father did whatever he wanted to do in terms of money and . My mother worked very hard but she wasn’t perfect neither, she tended to be a bit of a feminist and leftest. I had a very dysfunctional family, where my parents fought with each other. There were so much tension and arguments that it ultimately led to self-hating at such a young age (elementary).

I went through a lot of therapy and confessions.  It was not an easy process.

I decided to start a new blog – and talk about this inner struggle, faith and hope, relationship dilemmas, books, Catholic Church, philosophy, great books, finance, work/job, self-improvement, self-education/classical education, hobbies, cooking/food,  technology, manners, language/communication, cleaning, organization, and time management.

I would like to maintain this blog about being a woman.



Posted in Catholic Being

Being Present with Prayer

Sometimes my mind wonders off.  I don’t focus on what I am saying and  how I am saying them. I wonder if God, Mary and Jesus understand my human weakness and difficulties on being present when I am praying.

I catch myself and really try hard to focus on praying. I feel that when one catches themselves wondering off to the past or future, it is a good start of being mindful, changing my habit into a better one. Then I start focusing on the mystery of the Rosary, being present  on the life of Jesus and Mary.

I do believe that God is aware of our flaw humanness despite our many attempts. With God’s grace even a small change is significant enough. Being more mindful of our habits,  attempts,  weakness and changes is a good start of true conversion to becoming a better person .  Being patient with one’s self is extremely important to see how these small changes God is molding us little by little.  He is very gentle, loving and patient with us as well, so being kind and patient to one’s self is just as important as what God does and shows us. Like they say “Rome wasn’t built in one day”.



Posted in Guardian Women

Self Care

How important is self care for you? Have you spent time with taking care of yourself and fit it in your schedule? As a woman, it could be difficult when we have to think and put others first. Remember, it is critical to even take care of yourself as well so that why we can take care of others well.

Make a list of about two to three things a day that you would like to do that are self relievers/de-stress/unwind items. These items do not have to be expensive and glamorous.

My list of self care are

-Taking a bath

-Doing my own manicure/pedicure

-Practice my calligraphy

-Reading a book

-Watching/listening to my favorite youtube/podcast

-Eating my favorite food

-Taking a walk outside

-Cleaning up

-Chatting/hanging out with my girlfriends

What are some of you self-care list? Write your comments below.


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Posted in All The Single Ladies

Dating is…

Dating probably is daunting or fun depending on who you talk to. Why would it be daunting? Because you don’t have any control over it.  Of course, there are many myths behind dating.  I believe bad dates get the most spotlight, however, if one surrenders and knows their deal breaker then it could be fun.

Dating is uncomfortable because one cannot control the male, in terms of rejection. If one surrenders knowing that she will be fine at the end of the day, and then she moves on to the next potential date. Dating is like an interview process, it is the time of getting to know yourself and the other. Like any interview process at work, there is rejection. This is a fact and reality. It hurts but one must have the mind set to move on and accept the fact that it wasn’t meant to be.

Dating is a life experience. It is adventurous going ice skating, eating out in restaurants, etc. It is truly exciting, and interesting.

Dating provides information such as what you like/dislike about the person. You learn about yourself and the other which there is no other way but to go out on a date.

Are there anything else that dating does for you? Do you have any interesting dates that you would like to share? Share it below the comments below.

Posted in All The Single Ladies

A Single Women’s Guide

As a single woman, I believe it is important to put our femininity forward and share it with the world.

Here are some simple and easy to do examples to do that:

  1. Smile – it is always inviting and clearly states how friendly and confident we are.  It is amazing the comments that come your way when you smile.
  2. Clothing – dress your best and put your foot forward. Take time to dress up in your feminine way.
  3. Gratitude and compliments – words of thankfulness and niceness are so inviting to anyone. With gratitude, you look at the bright side of things. While being nice and giving affirmations, acknowledges people of their uniqueness.

Let’s put forth these practices and make the world a better place. As a single woman, these steps are simple, easy and accessible to give to others.

Posted in Education

Many options for Special Education teacher

This week, I have two interviews lined up.  I still have my side gig of tutoring, which keeps me motivated and keeps me creative.  I want to share about my journey in being a teacher because if you know someone that has the same feelings that I do, then please let them know there are so many options out there for teachers.

  1. Tutoring – We all know that the education system is messed up.  There are many students that do not do well in mass education.  Tutoring is a great gig. It helps with having an interaction with an individual as well as their parents. Also, there are many agencies that specialize with students with disabilities as well as publishing their own tutoring books.  You can make your own hours, and be creative in lesson planning.
  2. Babysitting – There are agencies that want special educators that have experience taking care of students with special needs. You are basically getting to know a child in the home environment, you can make your own lesson plans, and interact with the parents.  Sometimes it could require housekeeping and cooking.
  3. SETSS agencies – I am trying out this.  Basically, you are working for an agency in a school environment.  It could be a push-in (where I will be teaching a small group of students in the general teacher’s classroom) or pull-out (where I could take out the small group into a resource room).  You get a higher pay depending on how many students are in your classroom, which varies from agency to agency.

I will share more in latter posts about my experience in the SETSS agency. Please keep me in your prayers as well as sharing this post for anyone that want other choices in their teaching careers.